The Unseen Gashes of Verbal Fights
Originally posted on May 11, 2020 on medium.com/@shamandao
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“I’m not about violence and I don’t want to go there, but I just literally, just like, saw red, and I wasn’t going to let her think she can attack and get away with this,” Kim Kardashian said after her slap fight with her sister, Kourtney.
Irecently came across a three-minute video of their slap fight on their show while scrolling Facebook. The last time I ever sat down to watch an entire episode was over ten years ago when they first started filming. Every single time I would come across a scene or video, I chose to turn it off. There was a lot of lower vibrational negativity there and it rubbed me the wrong way. So I stopped watching.
There was always something about Kim’s words and aura that put me off. I am a blunt person, I say it like it is too, but there was something there I couldn’t put my finger on. Then it clicked because I clicked. Kim’s words were used as unseen attacks and left gashes on those inflicted.
Just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
For Kim, the physical attack from Kourtney was such a, ‘how could she, how dare she, what is wrong with her,’ moment. When hey Kim, you’ve been attacking people on camera your entire life with your lower vibrational words, how are you not seeing it for yourself?
We all have different times of awareness and pathways of consciousness. The environment we grow up in molds us, shapes us, and conditions us to believe and perceive life one way.
What if you begin to see things differently than those in the old environment?
What if you begin to shift your limiting beliefs set in your subconscious mind?
Well, you’d be the crazy one from the others. You’ll be the odd one out for wanting a different life or trying to move past the toxicity of your past environment. I look at Kourtney distancing herself from her family and think, good for you, keep asking questions about your beliefs and mindsets. Keep questioning the value of your life and what you place values on.
Kourtney is seeing and questioning her life in a different way versus the rest of her family and she’s the one being called crazy.
But you guys, their whole lives have been on camera. Have you seen the toxic patterns from year to year? Is Kourtney so wrong to want to go outside of the bubbled life she’s always known to grow another way? No, absolutely not.
I’ve always wondered about the Kardashian curse because I am the person who is called to help those with curses. The victims of curses, spells, black magic, what have you, seek out to find me. I thought about the Kardashian curse labeled by many as I was waiting for my flight at some airport in Europe.
I saw it bright as day. How a father loves his daughter is how she looks for love later in life.
What you see portrayed on television and social media is not the truth. The Kardashian girls showed so much love towards their late father on social media. From posting pictures to videos, etc of a loving relationship with him. But why, why are these women choosing toxic relationships time and time again?
It was not the men who were the common denominator, but these Kardashian women. They chose and still choose to this day alcoholics, addicts, cheaters, and so on. Why though?
This isn’t about a Kardashian curse, but more so of an invisible dance. These Kardashian women felt at home in these types of toxic relationships, why? Because to be with a partner who is emotionally and mentally healthy is to have missteps because it’s not the same dance. But the moment you begin dancing with someone who feels familiar (toxic, mentally, physically, emotionally abusive, addict, etc) to you, then you both dance the same dance. It feels familiar, it feels right and the man who is ready to give you an emotionally healthy love is left on the sidelines.
I know women personally who portray how loving their fathers are and were on social media. They would post pictures with all smiles, hugs, and all that jazz, all the while believing in that love. Even though it was unhealthy. Even though there was pain from physical beatings, arguments, verbal attacks that scarred their unseen souls from these fathers. They believe in that love because that was how love was taught to them.
Sometimes it’s best to
Unlearn the love
You were taught
To allow the love
You deserve.- Dao
We were taught what our parents were taught and so on. Sometimes, most times, you can see the pattern of the unhealthy behaviors from the parents to their offspring. I can see Kourtney trying to make sense of her relationship of self to her environment, family life included. You can see it reach a boiling point through her physical reaction because Kim’s been verbally attacking her for years.
To Kourtney, I see you and I am proud of you. For standing up for yourself, for asking questions about yourself to your life. For trying to step out of your comfort zone. For going inward versus seeking outward. The invisible gashes on your soul should not be an excuse to attack anyone, but we all falter sometimes. We all break down at one point.
Sometimes you need to break down, to breakthrough.
Blessed be.