The Discovery of Self From the Loss of Identity
Originally posted on Mar 27, 2020 on medium.com/@shamandao
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There are many people internally struggling right now isolated in their homes, afraid of their days. Their identity has been stripped away such as love, status, work, friends and family.
One-click off of Zoom from the group happy hour. The facade faded off of their faces, a disguise they’ve used their entire lives. The distractions we have grown so used to have now dwindled into the truth about ourselves.
Do you like who you see? Do you know who you are?
Some may think they have lost their identity of self but in reality, there was no self to identify with. I don’t think of Los Angeles as The City of Angels, but The City of Lost Angels. Too many people trying to be someone who they’re not. Too many people wanting a title, a status, a name to impress strangers. To prove to everyone, they’ve made it!
If you play for the applause of the audience, then you place your happiness in the hands of the audience.
We are a society of disconnection not only from each other but from ourselves. How many people do you know who are truly, I mean truly happy from the inside out? Do they love their work, their family and life? Do they have their own interests that fulfill their souls? They enjoy their lives as if it was their last day on Earth?
Because I have an extrasensory ability that allows me to see through souls and know what they’re feeling, I know the truth about others. I can pinpoint where their feelings are in their bodies and the truth behind the smile they portray to others on social media and the world. I do not judge, I merely observe. Many times, these same people contact me later to request sessions in assisting to find their truth and identities.
Surface value is what is easy for most because to go deeper is to feel all the emotions hidden, suppressed and silenced for most of our lives. I know, I’ve been there.
It’s painful to go back to the time of those traumatic incidents. It’s painful to face the truth of someone we thought should of and could have loved us. It’s painful to accept that the ones who were supposed to protect us when we were little never did and the feeling of sadness mixed in with anger and guilt is too much to bear. It’s easier to tuck them away and to go with the flow of the crowd instead of figuring out who we are. Who we are and what we like, what we don’t like, what we deserve and what we believe in.
Because a lot of times, self-belief is very difficult if we never had anyone around us to believe in us.
More than ever at this moment, some people will slide into depression faster than they have ever wanted or allowed themself to do. Some people will not know who they are and what they stand for because they have been stripped of everything they thought they believed made them, them. I say this with sadness in my soul, there will a lost of self and self purpose. There will be more lives lost.
As a collective whole, especially for those who are extra sensitive to emotions, we can feel the mass of emotions flowing through our veins. It’s a lot to take on and feel for any living being. Let alone someone who does not know who they are, what their purpose in life is or what they stand for.
I want to remind you to take it one day at a time. If you are reading this and you feel as if you do not know what to do or where to go from here, I know how you feel, I’ve been there. All you can do at this moment is take it one day, one breath and one acknowledgment at a time.
Who or what are you acknowledging? Some of you may ask. You, my dear. It’s time for you to see the truth about yourself, how lovely you are. I know you have forgotten, but I have not and more than ever, the world needs your creativity, your weirdness, your golden heart of love to be poured out so others can rejoice in all of your triumphs. We can do this simple exercise together that I showed my friend’s four-year-old daughter.
A good friend of mine’s four-year-old daughter showed me her nail beds, bitten down to her raw skin.
“Why are your nails like this, con, child? Why are you biting them?” I asked her in Vietnamese.
“He scratches them and they itch, so I have to scratch them,” she replied. Her definition of scratching was to bite her nails down until they bled.
“Who scratches them?” I asked her as I held her little hand in my palm.
“The bad man.”
I transferred a layer of my energetic field of protection through my palm and into hers, “Okay, here’s what we’re going to do, ready?” I asked her. She nodded her precious ponytailed head. “Next time he scratches you, all you have to do is this,” I let go of her hand and curled my nails towards me as if I was checking out a fresh manicure.
“Next time he scratches you, do this, blow on your nails like this, fwooosshh! And say, GO AWAY!”
As my friend and his wife were downstairs cleaning up lunch, here I was with his daughter blowing on our nails telling the bad man to go away. She giggled as I had her practice it again and again because repetition makes perfection.
With our empty plastic cups of make-believe tea and stencil drawings of our portraits on the Etch-A-Sketch next to us, I wanted her to repeat and execute this exercise because I knew it would help in the future. Bad spirits shouldn’t be scratching her and this four-year-old deserves healthy nail beds.
Her Dad recently reported to me that his daughter had stopped biting her nails and continued to blow on them when they felt itchy. “She tells the bad man to GO AWAY! Lol,” he texted me. We can all learn from her, so for those of you in your beds or having a difficult time, here’s a little exercise to help assist in telling the bad feelings to GO AWAY!
Acknowledging those bad feelings would be in our best interests, then we can set them free.
Once you feel yourself slide into a state of not wanting to do something, MOVE YOUR BODY. 10 reps of an exercise, 10 jumping jacks, 10 push-ups, 10 sit-ups. Do 10 repetitions to get your body moving.
Acknowledge the feeling of sadness and/or depression. Say this out loud, “I see you sadness, depression, I see you and acknowledge you.”
Acknowledge it once again to say, “I set you free, so I can be free.” Repeat this as many times needed.
Repeat this as you tap on your karate chop point on your hand. Here’s a how to video on EFT, Emotional Freedom Tapping Technique.
Easy, simple and in allowance is how you can slowly and effortlessly acknowledge the wonderful being you are. Be kind and gentle to yourself in this journey.
You is kind, you is smart, you is important. — Kathyrn Stockett
You are not alone in this, many people are feeling the same way you are in the isolation of their own homes. Many people right now have a sense of loss of self, but the truth is, you are given this opportunity to discover yourself.
Blessed be.