Finding Out Your Why is as Simple as 1, 2, 3
Originally posted on Apr 22, 2020 on medium.com/@shamandao
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How many people are struggling internally right now? If each person who was struggling internally turned on their cell phone lights to put them up in the air, the entire world would be lit up.
It would be a pretty sight if we were in space, but we’re not. We’re down here on Planet Earth feeling pain being ricocheted through each one of our beings. As a sensitive and intuitive, I am also feeling the energetic tidal waves of our electromagnetic fields slam into my apartment walls every day. On top of feeling the layers of lower emotional states of the conscious collective. It’s a lot to handle.
I am doing my best every day to ground myself and keep my mind, body and emotional states at a clear and high level. Recently I’ve picked up a game of sorts, if one can call this a game. I’m a self-development fanatic and I love understanding my why.
I’ve been writing down specific questions about my life and myself I’d like to understand more of. For example, ‘Why do I continue to eat carbohydrates even though I know the consequences of the outcome?”
Leans in: Let me tell you guys something, I love carbs. I love them so much, I tend to overlook ‘the moment on your lips, a lifetime on your hips’ saying to make excuses to eat them.
I’m not overweight and I’m pretty active but at the same time, the excess of carbs outweigh the greenery in my life as a vegan going on my fifth year. So I called my sister and we did this exercise together to understand our why’s. It was pretty interesting, liberating and at the same time, very fun!
Life should be simple. To understand our why’s shouldn’t be so difficult. You can meditate your way to your understanding or continue cycles of the same life experiences until awareness smacks you in your face. I’ve experienced both ways and then some. This way is more fun.
Buddy up with a non-judgmental friend or family member who will emotionally support you in this exercise. It takes about ten to twenty minutes. All you have to do is ask each other Why? five to eight times. It came be super simple to ask up to three times, but to maximize the effectiveness, try for a minimum of five times. You will want to continue to ask it until you resolve the issue at hand.
I became aware of my excessive carbohydrate eating ways and why today after being asked why nine times. After the ninth time, I felt my awareness expand to move out the root cause into a psychic vision of a magic bean being planted inside of me. It could have been any plain bean, but to me it was pure magic. You can begin planting your own inner seeds today for self-transformation tomorrow.
The reason it is better to have someone else ask you Why? is because hearing the question from another person allows it to sink in differently into your conscious mind. The answer that pops up first is most likely your truth. Own it.
According to Russell Brunson in his book, Expert Secrets, he’s found “that the secret to identifying people’s internal struggles is to take their external struggle and ask them “Why?” about five or six times. Keep drilling down until you get to the real reason they want to change. Here’s a hint: It’s usually tied to love or status — or both.”
Simon Sinek even has a course dedicated to discovering your why. The WHY is the purpose, cause or belief that drives every one of us.
Not all problems have one single root cause because problems come in layers. If you want to find the root cause of one problem, you will need to uncover one root why then begin again with another set of five to eight why’s?
If you do not have a buddy or one who is non-judgmental, you can also record yourself asking why about five to eight times. Remember to leave spaces in between the why’s to playback to yourself.
Once you become aware of your purpose, cause or belief that drives you to do what you do and who you are, you will be able to shift perceptions to actions to transformation.
Blessed be.
P.s. If no answer comes up or your answer is, “I don’t know,” dig into that. Dig into why you don’t know. Or why you are stopping yourself from answering. What I found in my practice was when I hear ‘I don’t know,’ this person is not fully ready to dive in deeper in their self-development and that’s okay. We’re all on different timelines and journeys. There is a plethora of modalities to align at different times. This isn’t about anyone but you and your why.